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10th-Jan-2011 10:08 pm
Hey everyone,

It's been quiet around here. I hope everyone's October 2006 "babies" are doing well!

I have a question about mine! He's kind of a know-it-all, or at least very argumentative. He'll ask me a question, and when given the correct answer, he'll argue the point and tell me what he thinks, at which point I throw up my hands and wonder why he bothered asking if he thinks he has the answers. I don't know why it drives me so crazy, but I just want him to have the correct information.

By way of example: Today on the way to school, on the freeway, he said, "There's one traffic light on the freeway, right?" I answered that there are no traffic lights on the freeway, because then it wouldn't be a freeway. He said, "There's ONE traffic light." I assumed he meant the ramp meter, so I explained that it's not ON the freeway, it's on the ramp to GET ON the freeway, and that it's not really a traffic light because there's no one going the other way. It's just a meter to control how fast people get on the freeway. He said there sometimes are people going the other way. Then he said there's also a traffic light at the end of the freeway. At some point, I gave up and said, "Okay Niv, you know the answers. Why are you asking me if you already know?" He "Hmphed" at me!

Anyway, you get the idea. Am I approaching this wrong? Is this a normal phase, this "I know all the answers" business? (Until they're teenagers, at least? Haha.) I have this need to make sure he has the "right" answers, but he won't always accept them. (It's not just ME, by the way. He's the same way with my husband and my mom, among others.) I hate just saying, "Okay, Niv, you're right" when he's not, but sometimes it just isn't worth another argument.

(And don't get me started on the "arguments" he and his two-year-old brother have. OMG. "YEEESSS!!!" "NO!!!" "YEEESSSSSS!!!!!" "NOOOOO!!" Sigh. The backseat of my car in the mornings can be an adventure all its own...)
11th-Jan-2011 06:30 am (UTC)
After explaining something as best I can and having Zack still try to correct me, I usually say something like, "Hm, that's interesting" and change the subject. I gave the information, he can think about it...there's no point arguing with a 4yo.

I've found that sometimes he knows that I am giving him the right information for Real Life, but he is pretending something else in his head and he is talking about the truth for his Pretend Game.
13th-Jan-2011 05:24 am (UTC)
Mine has been getting very argumentative too. Sometimes he believes me and sometimes he just has to argue that the sky is orange when it's clearly blue and nothing I say will change his point of view. I usually end up saying, "Whatever" or perhaps, "If you think so, I still disagree" which is usually followed by him saying, "I really promise Mommy" and me saying "Whatever." It's just a loosing battle and arguing doesn't seem to do any good.

I've been telling myself that he'll grow out of it when he's about 24.
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